(aka Dear Mac of The Possible Future)
- Your children are not puppets. They are individuals. All of them have different wants and needs. Don’t project onto them, or place them on a pedestal.
- Take the time to listen to them. They have a perspective, too, and they’re not always wrong just because they’re the children.
- Don’t try to tell them they’re extremely intelligent and capable of handling online high school classes when they can barely divide.
- Don’t forbid them from seeing friends—they’ll usually just find a way to go behind your back, if the friendship is strong enough.
- When they ask why they aren’t allowed to do something, give them a good, honest reason, not “Because I said so.”
- Don’t ever try to hide from Child Services, or isolate your children in other ways—especially not from peers. Psychologically, children need to form social connections, or their brains don’t develop correctly.
- If you’re going to homeschool your children, make sure that this is actually done. Properly. Patiently. Don’t yell at them for not understanding. Make sure you understand, first.
- Don’t tell them to stop being so sensitive.
- Don’t talk about people behind their backs to your children. Especially not other children or the other parent.
- Don’t make it all about you.